Damn that was a long 9 pages to read. Am I the only loser that reads everything on this site (I seriously think I haven't missed a single post since I joined in Feb.)?
Well, anyways, let me offer up my own novel on the topic.
I personally don't understand why this thread turned into this huge debate about Coty and Kelsie's love life, but it has, and so I guess we all have to argue about it now. I personally think, to put it bluntly, that Jenna should go...somewhere and leave us without her opinionated bitchy self. I simply cannot understand how or why someone would be so pushy and closed-minded that she would so forcibly try to push her opinion on someone, and even go so far as to make such accusations as what that someone was doing was "gross" and "morally wrong". If Kelsie was 36 and Coty was 40, would you be so disgusted then? No? Well, it's the exact same situation. Although I don't know either Kelsie or Coty and can make no testament to either's maturity, if they both want to be with each other, and (as it seems to be) it's working, why do you have such a huge problem with it?
As to some people being more mature than others: as for making generalizations about how one gender is more mature than the other, one age is more mature than another...I think it's bullshit. Maturity is affected just like every other aspect of your personality: by your surroundings and experiences. Some people can be very mature very young, and some can "act like a little kid" (which I realize is a simile not entirely appropriate for my current argument, but I digress...) when they are already an adult. For example, I find it much easier to communicate and get along with people of an older demographic. I can easily hold conversation and even be considered "friends" with many of my dad's friends, and get along much better with college/older age people than with my own classmates. Perhaps because I'm an only child? I don't know. But, anyways, that's not the point. The point is, you have absolutely NO RIGHT to pass judgment on the morality or rightness of a relationship between two people that you not only do not know the maturity level of, but have NEVER EVEN MET.
As for Potter, I think I realize what you're trying to say: that for a relationship to exist, you must have both physical and emotional attraction. However, this is not always true. For example, a girl that I may not deem physically attractive at first may seem downright "sexy" to me after I get to know her. What I'm trying to say is, physical and emotional attraction do not exist as two separate entities. They are influenced and changed by one another. Would you go out with the biggest bitch in the world if she looked like Jessica Alba?
As for sex, I don't think, if neither partner deems it so, that it need be a necessary part of every relationship. Especially for such young partners. Of course, for some, a relationship would be impossible without sex, but, for some (although I admit they are probably more rare in a society like ours), sex may not even be an issue.
As for Fluffy, I understand that you may mean well in warning Kelsie about the dangers of a relationship, especially with an older partner, but I doubt that your worries make much sense, especially since (as far as I know) you too know neither Kelsie nor Coty.
Well, now I've paid my due to this thread, and I hope this discussion will end soon. Thanks to MMR, Arka, Gattchoon, and others for keeping up the good end of the argument while I was gone
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