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Riot wrote:Belinda could you address Merk's concerns about the wings in this thread viewtopic.php?f=23&t=3943&start=165

Thank you.

Riot wrote:Belinda could you address Merk's concerns about the wings in this thread viewtopic.php?f=23&t=3943&start=165

Thank you.

Merk wrote:I don't think the term is literal, Belinda.

belindashort wrote:

Riot wrote:Belinda could you address Merk's concerns about the wings in this thread viewtopic.php?f=23&t=3943&start=165

Thank you.

Done, lol.

Merk wrote:I don't think the term is literal, Belinda.

I'm just stating that quoting a long post and then stating 'tl;dr' is bannable on most forums I frequent.

SoDeepPolaris wrote:

belindashort wrote:I'll copypasta my blogpost about this:

"Shitty dating/site 101"

Most people do this thing. Its not a secret, and this isn't some sort of revelation, but what people do, they cripple any chances they have at a real honest relationship with anyone, whether its on a 'dating' site, here, or even in the real world.

You join a dating site, or you just start chatting someone up:

Facade time. Put on your best face. Tell people a few 'bad' things about yourself but don't make it seem too bad, like a job interview manipulation. Turn some of the worst things about yourself into something 'cute'.

"Yeah, my last boyfriend left me screaming and running, but that was just because he wasn't ~~~adventurous~~~ enough! I'm too much woman for him to handle I guess" (In reality, he left running and screaming because he was sick of your bullshit drama and watching you cry over a bowl of cereal every morning just wasn't his type of adventure).

You write a bunch of things about yourself that you want other people to see. If they have 'test' you answer the test the way that you want another person to think that you answered it, as opposed to being truthful, whether with yourself or the test, even if the test explicitly states not to. You aren't REALLY out to find a soul mate, you just want to seem like the least creepy girl or guy on the site or in the club. (Obligatory repeat of 'in the club' dances)

You find someone you have something mildly in common with. You start pretending to be interested in things you give no shits about. You start to google these things so that you can feign interest in these hobbies or interests to make yourself seem to have a higher stock, or you talk about things you know a few things about as if you taught them in college.

"Oh yeah, I used to do that all the time, just don't let the jelly get away from you, you never know what sort of spores you might release into the troposphere!' smug

What you don't do - Tell them anything meaningful, whatsoever. That probably won't come until you both decide to meet up for the third or fourth time and get trashed, and start to actually talk, but by then, your bullshit facade has eaten its way past someone's trust zone. (This of course goes both ways).

You tell yourself you really like the person, and vice versa. You end up in the throes of NRE. Again, even less of a chance now that you will build ANYTHING even remotely substantial, but its fun right? I don't see anyone getting hurt, I really LIKE this person!

Now you're dating, maybe you've even had monkey sex a few times, but you still don't know each other. You both have your secrets, and now you are at the point that you will fight to keep them. You begin planning the future, and even planning how you will hide these things that you have managed to thus far keep hidden.

What if she finds out about the sodomized my little pony sculpture I have hidden in storage? What if he wants to meet my family and realizes that I was fabricated entirely out of self-replicating silicate nanites, but I just want to be human?

Its too late. Any semblance of a real relationship is shattered, because at some point, you have to rewind to get to the truth. You will never be able to have a meaningful relationship with this person, no matter how much you care for them because you won't be able to be honest with them. You'll be starting over the moment you start being truly honest.

Obviously I know everyone does not do this, but a lot of people think that they do not do this, and it is practically their M.O.

To put something personal on this:

I don't have a lot of close friends. If I have someone really close to me, it means that I let them in, and they didn't fuck with my trust. The other reason I don't have many friends is because when I meet people, they get a very intense version of me that I don't have any way to filter. Its not necessarily dramatic, but it is me, down to my worst habits if that comes up.

The reason I do this is because of the above. I don't want fake friendships, or fake relationships, and I don't want anyone to end up not being my friend because they just 'found out' that I suck my thumb, or that my family is crazy, or that I am poly, or that I don't want kids. These things are bound to come up in our FIRST conversation. Yes, my hobbies and interests will come up too, but I won't be wearing them like a badge that says 'you know you want me lolz'

I want real relationships, friendships, lovers. I have a deep intimate connection to people I am close to, and I keep people close to me that I care about. And I want them to have that from me.

I know my rant seems silly, maybe even misplaced or some regurgitation of things that people already know but don't care about. I want everyone to have real, intimate, trusting relationships. I want people to KNOW each other, inside and out. Stop hiding, who you are is probably better anyway, and you'll never know if you don't give someone else a chance to actually know you anyway.

tl;dr


OKCupid gets me laid.

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Merk wrote:HI I'M 26 YEARS OLD AND I LIKE VAMPIRES, ART, TATTOOS, PIERCINGS, AND NOT TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY LIFE. I AM STILL AT THE SAME MATURITY LEVEL AS WHEN I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL.