Change the Subject again, please.

Riot · Post by **Riot** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 3:41 pm

One time I had a crush on an 11 year old dog. But I was 13 so it's okay.

TaQa · Post by **TaQa** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 3:43 pm

Riot wrote:One time I had a crush on an 11 year old dog. But I was 13 so it's okay.

I haven't read any of this thread except that, and I have now dubbed this the best thread ever.

the gattchoon · Post by **the gattchoon** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 3:43 pm

Potter wrote:you dont read posts moshmoshskeetalution. I said nothing about actually carying out teh sexorzzzzzzzzz. Im saying there not even intrested in it. As in there not sexually interested in eacother. Which is a garuntee its not going to last. BT WE ALL READY NEW DATZ

Like Mosh_Mosh said, the insides of their relationship is their business first of all, not yours, not mine, and not the rest of the forums'.

Just because a couple isn't interested in sex, or having sex with each other, doesn't mean they won't last. We won't understand the way the human mind/heart works, since emotions are one of the hardest things to control.

Like I talked to you about, I'm sure there are couples that don't have sex and last, and even married couples. Can I name them exactly? Not really, but it's none of my business to pry about that. In the same way, there are a TON of couples who DO have sex and they don't last.

All relationships take some sort of work and effort to last, whether it's sex in someone else's opinion or not. Nothing is a promise or agreement to last.

Riot · Post by **Riot** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 3:47 pm

I've been together with my girlfriend (not the dog) for 3 years and we haven't had sex. She wants to wait until we're married, so, being the suave gentleman I am, I said okay. And we're lasting just fine.

To gatchoon's point, when I had sex with the dog, we didn't last more than a week after that. Because she died =(

Potter · Post by **Potter** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 3:50 pm

YOU GUYS DONT UNDERTSAND WHAT IM SAYINGGGGGGGGGGG

IM SAYING YOU CANT HAVE TRUE LOVE IF YOUR NOT INTERESTED IN SEXUAL ACTS. riot, you are sexually interested in her, but your holding off. discopooface says hes not even sexually interested in her.

XxJennaxX · Post by **XxJennaxX** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 3:51 pm

I would accept the point that I don't have credibility b/c I date Casey but there's just one major flaw in that concept...I'M NOT 14 AND HE'S NOT A PEDOPHILE! I'm 19, and he's 21, and I know him better than anyone on this entire site, but I know that's not what you were hinting at. True, I don't condone some of his behavior, but then again, when he does/says something that I don't approve of, I just look the other way b/c I'm mature enough not to care or let it affect me. And I can also defend Casey [when needs be] with quite a bit of intelligence instead of using stupid name-calling tactics. True, I may be giving this girl a hard time, but then again, if I were 14 and had a 18 yo boyfriend, I would deserve to be made fun of for being naive. You can make fun of my relationship w/ Casey all you want, but it's not going to affect me or upset me or make me turn into a huge bitch b/c I can defend myself without letting others bother me so feel free to attack Casey or myself b/c I accept a fine debate.

Riot · Post by **Riot** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 3:53 pm

Potter wrote:YOU GUYS DONT UNDERTSAND WHAT IM SAYINGGGGGGGGGGG

IM SAYING YOU CANT HAVE TRUE LOVE IF YOUR NOT INTERESTED IN SEXUAL ACTS. riot, you are sexually interested in her, but your holding off. discopooface says hes not even sexually interested in her.

Oh. Well I don't really read much of the posts here so I didn't know what people were talking about. I just like to chime in with random comments and occasionally be serious.

the gattchoon · Post by **the gattchoon** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 4:20 pm

Potter wrote:YOU GUYS DONT UNDERTSAND WHAT IM SAYINGGGGGGGGGGG

IM SAYING YOU CANT HAVE TRUE LOVE IF YOUR NOT INTERESTED IN SEXUAL ACTS. riot, you are sexually interested in her, but your holding off. discopooface says hes not even sexually interested in her.

Again, there might be couples that aren't really sexually interested in each other, and they still last, married or not. The bottom point, then, is I guess that the definition of "true" love is going to be different to everyone. Whether it's expressing yourself physically/sexually with each other or enjoying the company of a partner, but just have that feeling that you're "more than just friends" without the sexual interest. That's love to some people. Some things you just can't explain to other people, and it's only something you feel within yourself.

I guess sex just isn't an interest to some people. But that works out for them.

On another note, couples that have been together and are in old age now, although they might have been sexually interested/active in their younger days, I'm sure some of the older couples are no longer sexually interested/active in each other. That doesn't necessarily mean they don't love each other anymore just because they're not interested in that way. And they are lasting.

Remember that physical attraction and sexual attraction are different things. At an age like 14, I was most likely like "Wow, he's hot, I wish he was my boyfriend" but that is totally different than "I'd want to have sex with him" which doesn't come across my mind [up to now] as a determining factor for a boyfriend/partner.

Nobody knows what Coty, or any of us for that matter, is really thinking. So whether or not he's that kind of interested in Mamimi is something to be kept to themselves.

And Riot, you're a good guy. =)

Green Tea · Post by **Green Tea** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 4:39 pm

I'm going to be brief and vague, take from this what you want.

I read a statistic once saying that only 5% of relationships in high school last forever.

I will come back to this thread in 4 years

-Green Tea

sam · Post by **sam** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 5:17 pm

i think 4 months would be more than sufficient

Post by Ho » Fri Jul 14, 2006 10:51 pm

the gattchoon wrote:Ho, I'm calling you out again, do you have any say on this or relationships in general since you're in a damn well successful one? =P

I've been out most of today. Coincidentally, I've been out with Lissa celebrating our 8th anniversary.

There is a lot I could say about the topic at hand, but I'm tired and much of it has already been said. So I will just say one thing:

Attempting to apply our own perspective/values/preferences/etc. on something as personal as someone else's relationship is pure folly.

Edit:

One other thing.

If it's one thing I've learned from nearly six years of IndyDDR, it's that chronological age is not a reliable determining factor of a person's true being. I've had the opportunity to meet quite a few "kids" with wisdom and maturity far beyond their years. Of course I've met the other end of the spectrum as well.

But let's face it, many people my age are simply not interested in hanging out with "kids" the average age around here. It is assumed that "kids" that age will be a certain way and that turns many people my age off.

Taking the time to actually get to know some these "kids" has proven these assumptions completely wrong to me on multiple occassions, and I am pleased to count these people among my friends.

I am neither condoning nor condemning the particular relationship being discussed. I've not met either person. But 14 and 18 are just numbers. They don't tell us anything concrete about the people they represent.

XxJennaxX · Post by **XxJennaxX** » Sat Jul 15, 2006 3:38 am

Ho wrote:
the gattchoon wrote:Ho, I'm calling you out again, do you have any say on this or relationships in general since you're in a damn well successful one? =P
I've been out most of today. Coincidentally, I've been out with Lissa celebrating our 8th anniversary.

There is a lot I could say about the topic at hand, but I'm tired and much of it has already been said. So I will just say one thing:

Attempting to apply our own perspective/values/preferences/etc. on something as personal as someone else's relationship is pure folly.

Edit:

One other thing.

If it's one thing I've learned from nearly six years of IndyDDR, it's that chronological age is not a reliable determining factor of a person's true being. I've had the opportunity to meet quite a few "kids" with wisdom and maturity far beyond their years. Of course I've met the other end of the spectrum as well.

But let's face it, many people my age are simply not interested in hanging out with "kids" the average age around here. It is assumed that "kids" that age will be a certain way and that turns many people my age off.

Taking the time to actually get to know some these "kids" has proven these assumptions completely wrong to me on multiple occassions, and I am pleased to count these people among my friends.

I am neither condoning nor condemning the particular relationship being discussed. I've not met either person. But 14 and 18 are just numbers. They don't tell us anything concrete about the people they represent.

Hanging out and trying to hold an emotional relationship are two totally seperate things.

But its one thing for them to think its ok, it's not their fault. I blame their parents for bad parental skills. They need to raise them a little better with a little more control of their kids.

ShammerS · Post by **ShammerS** » Sat Jul 15, 2006 3:59 am

XxJennaxX wrote: Hanging out and trying to hold an emotional relationship are two totally seperate things.

But its one thing for them to think its ok, it's not their fault. I blame their parents for bad parental skills. They need to raise them a little better with a little more control of their kids.

A simple law of love is that it ignores age. You being such a connoisseur should at least realize that. It's not a 'fault', and no one is to 'blame'.

Face it, someone's jealous of someone else's happiness.

I'm dating a girl 2 years younger.. should I tell my parents they've done poorly? Or her's? ..didn't think so. Relationships are very personal anyway, making this topic entirely pointless unless she or he had asked for input to begin with.

If judging relationship quality or appropriateness is your ball game, stick to Cosmo; I here Justin's got a new girl.

God Of Rock · Post by **God Of Rock** » Sat Jul 15, 2006 5:01 am

Ah kids. They're all pink on the inside.

Potter · Post by **Potter** » Sat Jul 15, 2006 5:05 am

ShammerS wrote:
XxJennaxX wrote: Hanging out and trying to hold an emotional relationship are two totally seperate things.

But its one thing for them to think its ok, it's not their fault. I blame their parents for bad parental skills. They need to raise them a little better with a little more control of their kids.
A simple law of love is that it ignores age. You being such a connoisseur should at least realize that. It's not a 'fault', and no one is to 'blame'.

Face it, someone's jealous of someone else's happiness.

I'm dating a girl 2 years younger.. should I tell my parents they've done poorly? Or her's? ..didn't think so. Relationships are very personal anyway, making this topic entirely pointless unless she or he had asked for input to begin with.

If judging relationship quality or appropriateness is your ball game, stick to Cosmo; I here Justin's got a new girl.

Yea sam, lets go with that logic. Then when Im 50 I will be dating a 11 year old but it dont matta CUZ LUV DOESNT NO AGE WOAHWOAH CUT MY WRISTS AND BLACK MY EYES

and gatchoon. In the thing you said about old couples doign fine without being interested i nsex before, the fact is the where before and were probably very sexualy active at one point. there stil together and fuzzy lumpkins because theyve shared that experience before.

Ho wrote:Of course I've met the other end of the spectrum as well.

I WUNDER WOO DAT WOOD BE