Internet dating *or* grasping for love at end of one's rope

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Post by Amp Divorax » Fri Mar 18, 2016 7:19 am

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Post by Merk » Wed Mar 23, 2016 2:24 pm

Welp, she bailed an hour before we were gonna meet up. I guess the silver lining is that I didn't get stood up.

Oh well back to the drawing board!
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Post by Amp Divorax » Thu Mar 24, 2016 7:16 am

The real question I have is how the holy hell are you single? You have quite a bit more going for you than I do to say the least from what I've seen.
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Post by Merk » Thu Mar 24, 2016 10:32 am

I mean I guess I'm technically only recently single after a long-term relationship and I didn't really hit the market until about two or so weeks ago. You're right though, I have some things going for me and enough confidence / self-awareness to know that I'm worth getting into a relationship with and that I can make someone happy if the other person is interested. If they aren't interested then that's fine, I have the self-respect to only want to be with someone who wants to actually be with me. Having that mindset really does make a difference and prevents you from getting too emotionally attached (and inevitably clingy/weird/obsessed) too quickly.

I feel like a big pitfall for a lot of people is that they find out that they really like someone and immediately want to get into the "wear sweatpants / hang out casually all the time and binge Netflix" phase of a relationship instead of building up to that point - you really do lose something special when you rush through dating because when you're dating it's like, "Man, I can't wait to go meet up with this person!" and when that turns into casual hanging out it becomes, "Well, I gotta go hang out with this chick and watch some Parks & Rec" which I guess is fine to an extent but certainly much less exciting.

I've never really dated before so this is all sort of new territory for me but I'm trying to have a positive outlook on the whole thing and doing what I can to get out there and meet people. There's gonna be hits and misses but at the end of the day I get to work on my conversational skills and that's what counts - I can't solely survive on just being a little goofball like I can around you guys lolololol
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Post by Ho » Thu Mar 24, 2016 10:55 am

He's also a decent kisser.
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Post by Merk » Thu Mar 24, 2016 11:30 am

Brian you got a pretty mouth
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Post by Ho » Thu Mar 24, 2016 12:18 pm

I wish I could quit you.
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Post by Merk » Fri Apr 01, 2016 2:07 pm

I got a date tonight that's actually not going to bail.

I'm going to crash and burn hard on this one guys lololololol
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Post by Ho » Fri Apr 01, 2016 2:11 pm

She's still got hours to bail.

Also...

"Oh, you thought we were going out tonight? APRIL FOOLS!"
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Post by Merk » Fri Apr 01, 2016 2:14 pm

You know it's funny she sent me a text this morning more or less saying that she couldn't make it tonight and then followed it up with an APRIL FOOLS AYYYYY
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Post by Ho » Fri Apr 01, 2016 2:44 pm

I like her style.
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Post by Merk » Mon Apr 04, 2016 9:13 am

I didn't get stabbed!

It was pleasant. That's probably the best single word I can use to describe what was the first real adult date of my life.
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Post by Ho » Mon Apr 04, 2016 9:27 am

When did you become an adult? I missed it.
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Post by Merk » Thu May 12, 2016 10:32 am

Oh shit I should probably update this thread!

So the first chica, the one who I talked about a few posts ago, was a pleasant dating experience but that's about the long and short of it. There wasn't much of a spark and I sort of ghosted her, she didn't pursue me, and that was the end of that. Fundamentally I think we were too different and if I were to commit to her I could see myself being miserable.

There was another chica that I went on a date with about two weeks later that was actually super cool. We met up at Tappers, played some games, drank some burrs, ate some Mexican food, and overall had a great time. She ghosted me a few days later, I didn't pursue because as a dude you sort of have to stay chill, and that was the end of that. Sigh... I suppose that's some sort of karmic justice.

Another chica on OKC messaged me who was totally into the same shit I was into and looked like she was weird, cute, and quirky which is my type. I creeped her on Facebook and found out that she totally has a kid and that's a deal breaker for me. Obviously she didn't mention that she had a kid anywhere in the ol' OKC profile.


I realized at this point I was spending too much time on Tinder and I was letting my other priorities, like going to the gym and getting super shit-ripped buff, flounder. I feel like the online dating experience is just sort of one disappoint to the next and I'm trying to only have good times in my newly single life so the last few weeks I've only sort of casually paid attention to the whole online dating thing and I haven't been on any other dates. I've sort of started things back up again this last week or so if only because I don't want to live a pathetic life where I stay at home on the weekends despite being a baller 30-year old. I realize that frustration is part of the game and that if I want to slam ass then I'm going to have to man up and take the bad with the good.

Bleh, talking to randos and trying to come across as interesting, worthwhile, and self-assured is difficult for me since it's not something I've had to do often. I can do it but it takes a lot of mental fortitude and it's easy for me to slide back into a goofy self-deprecating vibe because that's where I'm most comfortable but it's also not very attractive.


Anybody here have any single friends?
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