I don't think I'd give it the rank of "one of the fundamental differences between men and women."Original Sin wrote: I suppose this is one of the fundamental differences between men and women...Unless the guy is a hopeless romantic, he can usually go for quite a while without seeing his significant other, and be perfectly fine.
Women on the other hand, most I've encountered anyway, seem to have this need to see their significant other on a near constant basis. So usually, the guy ends up having to spend immense amounts of time with her, and while this makes the woman happy, it eventually becomes pretty annoying from the guys stand point.
My one serious romantic involvement was with a dear, close friend who eventually had to move for personal reasons. We carried on a "distance relationship" (such a silly term) for a while. I was okay with the fact that I'd only see him every few months, but he eventually decided it was too difficult to deal with.
And no, he wasn't a hopeless romantic (hey, he never wanted to do anything for Valentine's Day!), he just had a different set of emotional needs than I did.
So maybe more women than men want to spend a lot of time around their SO, but it's certainly not fundamental.
Eek, calm thou. Bitter much?Original Sin wrote:Don't worry Erin, you'll get to see him. You see him tons more than I do, and he's one of my best friends. We used to hang out damn near every day, now it's what...maybe once a week, if that? The fact that you're seeing him far more than any one else should make you feel good about your situation...you still seem to be at the top of the list. Instead of trying to make him spend more time with you, be thankful for the amount of time he spends with you, especially when compared to the time he gets to spend with anyone else.
Seriously, I doubt that seeing him more than you do has anything to do with it. MMR's sentiment is probably motivated by affection and enjoyment of his company, not by the need to be at "the top of the list." As such, "list" position changes nothing.
(MMR, if I'm wrong in my assumptions about your mindset, please accept my apologies and feel free to slap me around a bit with a large trout.)
MMR: I can't say I reacted with "WTF?!", but I do feel for you. Here's hoping things get better, VDay or no VDay.
And on a lighter note, for the rest of us: congratulations on another Valentine's Day spent without having to make any reservations, order any flowers, select any chocolates, mail any cards or deal with any people. Except those we work with, unfortunately.